Acceptance of Your Childless Body

Written By sarah jane smith

A while ago, I had the pleasure of being a guest on the Awakening Worth in Childless Women Podcast with fellow Canadian Sheri Johnson. I shared my story and how I dug deep into my experience with yoga and embodiment practices to reconnect with myself, find self-compassion and move towards acceptance of myself and my body.

Even if our journeys to childlessness aren’t the same, I believe the mind-body connection is crucial in uncovering the confidence needed to step forward on the childless path.


In the episode,  you’ll discover:

  • how to reverse the desire to push for performance and how that relates to fertility and the desire to be a mother

  • how to use movement to reconnect with your body and allow it to show you what it needs

  • why it’s so important to meet yourself with kindness and compassion

Here are some of the highlights: 

3:45  – Sarah Jane’s story, ten years of fibroids and ultimately a hysterectomy

9:07 – The feeling of failure with every period yet continuing to try and the perceived judgment of not doing fertility treatments

13:55 – How Sarah Jane began to heal

16:12 – Intentionally focusing on healing after her hysterectomy, asking, “Who am I now? What can my body do?”

17:23 – The beginning of her embodiment journey and what embodiment is

21:22 – How Sarah Jane teaches embodiment

26:46 – Using performance as a measure of self-worth and how it relates to the fertility journey

30:29  – The pieces of the embodiment practice: yoga, movement, writing, sharing (and the importance of sharing)

32:18 – The challenge of having self-compassion and how to meet yourself with kindness

38:40 – How embodiment coaching helps to re-establish trust with the body

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